top of page

Do you have a friend or family member with BPD?

Writer's picture: Dr Kylie Hutchings MangionDr Kylie Hutchings Mangion

Updated: Aug 4, 2023

Have you wondered what or how can you best support them?


Supporting someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) requires patience, understanding, and empathy. BPD can be challenging for both the individual and their loved ones, but with the right approach, you can make a positive difference in their life.


Here are some tips to help you provide support:


Educate yourself: Learn about BPD and its symptoms, treatment options, and coping strategies. Understanding the condition will help you empathize and respond more effectively.





Communicate openly: Encourage open and honest communication with the person. Be a good listener and avoid judgmental or dismissive remarks. Create a safe space where they feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings.


(THIS NEXT ONE IS AN IMPORTANT POINT)

Set boundaries: While being supportive, it's crucial to establish and maintain healthy boundaries. BPD individuals might have intense emotions and sometimes display challenging behaviors. Ensure you protect your own well-being while supporting them.


Validate their feelings: People with BPD often experience intense emotions, and they might struggle with emotional regulation. Validate their feelings, even if you don't fully understand them. Show empathy and acknowledge their experiences.


Encourage professional help: Encourage the person to seek professional assistance from a therapist or psychiatrist experienced in treating BPD. Psychotherapy, such as dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), is often recommended for individuals with BPD.


Be patient and understanding: Dealing with BPD can be overwhelming, both for the individual and those around them. Be patient with their progress and setbacks, and avoid getting frustrated or upset with them.


Avoid taking things personally: BPD individuals might experience interpersonal difficulties and mood swings, which can lead to conflicts. Remember that these reactions are often a result of their condition and not a reflection of your actions.


Offer consistent support: Stability and consistency are essential for individuals with BPD. Be there for them consistently and offer support during difficult times.


Crisis management: If the person is going through a crisis, such as intense emotional distress or suicidal ideation, take the situation seriously. Encourage them to seek IMMEDIATE professional help or, if necessary, call emergency services.


Remember that supporting someone with BPD can be challenging at times, and you don't have to do it alone. You may also benefit from support, reach out to support groups or mental health professionals to get guidance and advice on how to be the best support possible. Remember that caring for yourself is also vital, as supporting someone with BPD can be emotionally demanding. Make sure you have your own support network to lean on when needed.

7 views0 comments

Comments


  • LinkedIn

© 2023 by Dr Kylie Hutchings Mangion. Powered and secured by Wix

bottom of page